Life as an ESTJ minor in a SJ household:
You all know the typical “SJ” child. We’re the ones who follow our parent’s rules, do homework and clean rooms without being told to, and generally just work within the system our parents have created without too much friction. However, once an SJ matures into a teen (or as some say) “young adult” this idyllic home life somewhat vanishes. No, we don’t go out and party hard, smoke drugs, and get tattoos (well hopefully most don’t), however most SJs experience a good deal of conflict with their parents as they mature and become able to better administer themselves without parental input.
SJ parents become so used to their nice orderly home system (and having their children follow it) that once those children become teens and begin to pull away, the SJ parents have a hard time dealing with the new change.
I know for me this manifests itself in driving…
Although many of you think that teens are terrible unsafe drivers, I like to think that I am somewhat of an exception. I generally follow the rules of the road, drive responsibly and courteously, and refuse to be intimidated by any situation. However m(although my parking could certainly use some work) my SJ mother can’t stand the idea of not having some sort of input or control on my driving. Thus, the “Backseat Driver” takes hold, and what would otherwise be a calm trip becomes a heated argument over whether the previous lane change was necessary or what’s worse: When an SJ parent tells their child to do something, which the SJ child has already done.
An SJ parent and an SJ teen living in the same household is like having two administrators for the same department, or two generals for one army, etc.
Fortunately, although there is friction between and SJ parent and an SJ child, it usually can be overlooked or dealt with. If anything it just shows the conflicts that arise sometimes between similar personalities…
Andrew- ESTJ
(Oh and here are some random quotes I enjoy)
"Well, we've been looking for the enemy. We finally found him. We are surrounded and outnumbered. That simplifies things..." ~ Chesty Puller at Chosin Reservoir during the Korean War
"The greatest pleasure is to vanquish your enemies and chase them before you, to rob them of their wealth and see those dear to them bathed in tears, to ride their horses and clasp to your bosom their wives and daughters." ~ Genghis Khan (Flail of God…what a pleasant fellow)
