Showing posts with label Ruthie. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Ruthie. Show all posts

Wednesday, September 24, 2008

Guest Post: Millennials and the Meaning of Life


This is a guest post by Ruthie:

I work as a teaching assistant at a large Midwestern research university, where I also attend as a graduate student.

Last week, in a meeting with one of the professors for whom I work, the touchy topic of the Millennial Generation arose. The professor lamented the fact that the new generation of students seem entitled, self-important, and perpetually plugged in. Realizing that I’m 23, she quickly added: “Not you, of course.”

But she’s right—the new generation of 20-somethings, myself included, are beginning to see education as a right and not a privilege—and they have never known a world without instantaneous communication. I had my first cell phone at 15. I can hardly remember life before the Internet.

We are, some say, a generation adrift—devoid of purpose or meaning in a poststructuralist, postmodern world. We have been taught that culture is relative, that truth is subjective, that the self is a social construct.

The logical conclusion of these base assumptions, paired with an ever-evolving spiderweb of technology, has led our generation to be more image-conscious than any generation that came before. The very hearts of our identities are shaped by people’s perceptions of us—we are self-indulgent, cripplingly open about our private lives, even narcissistic.

In a lab section that I lead on Fridays, several of my students were required to take the VALS test as part of a marketing assignment. We discussed their lifestyle categories, and I asked them if any of them had ever taken the MBTI assessment. To my surprise, many of them had, and their responses and comments about their categorization within the two tests were among the most enthusiastic and interesting I’d seen all semester.

This, I think, is because we are a generation that prides itself on individuality—we see it as the highest good, the most sought-after goal. The students in my lab section are like the rest of us—dying to know themselves at some true, essential level, apart from social constructs and other people’s perceptions. Looking for meaning within the ephemeral and the subjective.

And so the meaning of life for the Millennial generation is expression—the only way to validate a fleeting existence limited by perception.

We are experiencers and consumers, learning to craft our public images via Myspace and Facebook, seeking to better market ourselves to universities and prospective employers. But in the context of a brave new 21st-century society, I think most of us realize that neither consumption nor personal experience can give us ultimate, transcendent meaning. Our lives, both public and private, are particular to us, and one day both they (and we) will be gone.

I believe this is what we’re afraid of. We, who have spent our lives immersed in instantaneous technology since infanthood, are afraid of fading away unnoticed. We are afraid that our tiny voices will be swept away in the mad torrent of this information age.

We are afraid of becoming obsolete.

And so expression—the validation of our existence by preserving it in some form—in pictures, Myspace and Facebook pages, blogs, journals, music and art—has become the highest good, the purest form of meaning.

I hope the older generations can forgive us our flightiness and our narcissism, our iPods and our text messages.

We, like every generation that came before, crave permanence, fulfillment and meaning—meaning that, for many of us, can only be attained through expression.

Thursday, August 14, 2008

Here's Ruthie! (ENTJ)


I am so excited to announce that Ruthie will be sharing her wonderful gift of writing with us about once a month. I first stumbled upon her blog, Zaftig, about 10 months ago and was touched and inspired by her thoughts. A single mom struggling to put herself through school, she'll be starting grad school this fall (she's in the middle of her move to the new city as we speak). She pours out her heart and her fears into her writing and makes you want to put your arms around her, yet she has a dignified and confident way about her that makes you want to follow her into any battle.

I am very honored that she has agreed to my request to contribute her thoughts here periodically to give us yet another perspective on various topics. She answered a few questions for me to post her introduction:

So... Here's Ruthie!

Linda: Have you taken the MBTI assessment? If so, what is your type?

Ruthie: I'm ENTJ. I was surprised by how accurate the results seemed to be-- particularly some of the specifics about the quality of extroversion, because while I am social and outgoing person who finds it easy to talk to other people, I am extremely guarded about my personal life (in real-life relationships--outside of the blogosphere, that is). The results said I was "contained," which it also said is out-of-preference for extroversion.

My individual type description-- including the out-of-preference characteristics-- was "ENTJ--Contained, Realistic, Tender," which sounds like a strange combination but fits me pretty well.

Interestingly, Linda, I think the out-of-preference quality of "containedness" (probably not a word!) has a lot to do with another one of your questions-- the one regarding very personal posts. (See **question below)

I think the blog was an outlet for expression of things that I couldn't let out in my normally-self-contained everyday life. There are a lot of things I share on the blog I wouldn't have the courage to say aloud-- that's reflected in my personality type, evidently. That was an interesting insight for me.

(NOTE: Ruthie has taken MBTI Step II assessment. When she speaks of "out of preference," she is referring to the detailed facets that the Step II looks at)

Linda: How long have you been a part of the blogsphere?

Ruthie:
Almost two years. My first blog post was in 2006, around the time my grandfather died, in September.

Linda:
What is the most difficult thing for you as a single mother and a full-time student?

Ruthie:
There isn't one most difficult thing. There are a lot of little things.

It was easy to bite off more than I could chew and think that I could do it all-- one semester my junior year I had two jobs and a full-time course load, and I was commuting from a city an hour away to the university. That was a bad semester. I had a number of minor anxiety attacks and I smoked a lot of cigarettes. (A few months ago I finally quit for good.)

In college very few of my classmates and friends had children. They were often shocked to discover that I had a child. Their basic inability to relate to my position and my inability to be a "regular" college student was often frustrating. Sometimes I fleetingly wished I could go out for drinks with the rest of my friends after a big exam or go to Mexico for spring break, but more often I'm disappointed that there aren't very many people who relate to my non-partying, atypical-college-student lifestyle.

I think this will change in grad school.

Linda:
Do you feel that there is equal respect for highly intelligent women (as there is for men) in the world of academia?

Ruthie:
It depends where you are. There's a double standard for women in general-- an ambitious or very intelligent woman is generally viewed with slightly more suspicion and disdain than an ambitious, intelligent man. It could be a lot worse, though. It's certainly better than it was.

Linda: **You have been very brave to share some very personal stories with the world on your blog. I have done it as well, because I felt that being vulnerable in front of others makes me grow. Is that also your case?

Ruthie:
That's part of it, but I think it's also the postmodernist in me, wanting my fleeting expression to be validated externally. For a long time I wrote volumes and volumes of things-- short stories, brief descriptions, journal entries, scraps of things, that no one read but me.

Then I thought: If no one is reading this, why am I expressing it? There were a lot of things I thought and felt that I couldn't tell anyone who knew me personally-- like the process of working through my failed relationship with my son's father-- that I desperately wanted to express. Blogging gave me a relatively safe outlet for expressing what was on my mind without making myself too open to people who knew me in my everyday life.

Now the two worlds are beginning to intersect-- my mother discovered my blog and subsequently shared it with my father and brother, and one woman I met through the blogosphere actually ended up being a source for me on a piece I wrote about climate change-- she was an atmospheric chemist at NASA, studying climate change in the Arctic. It's interesting to see how the two worlds are intersecting.

Linda:
Are you interested in writing some guest posts for my blog on various issues to share your perspective?

Ruthie: Yes!

::Ruthie